(NASB) Romans Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? those of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Jebusites, the Ammonites, the Moabites, the Egyptians, and the Amorites.(NASB) 2 Corinthians Now when these things had been completed, the princes approached me, saying, “The people of Israel and the priests and the Levites have not separated themselves from the peoples of the lands . For they have taken some of their daughters as wives for themselves and for their sons . .” (NASB) Ezra 9:1-2 What follows is a struggle in the hearts of these Jewish men when they realized they had sinned against God by marrying these women. When we come to the New Testament, 1 Corinthians -16, the principle is the same; but here we are told that if we are married to an unbeliever we are not to divorce him/her unless he/she wants to be free.Marriage is the second most important decision anyone ever makes. This matter is so vital that I urge you before reading further to bookmark this webpage and go straight to The Ultimate Love Affair. As we have seen, many well-meaning, good-living church members are deluded about their own personal standing with God. Who would have thought that these clean living, respectable people would end up cruelly treating Christians? Any conversion is suspect whenever love for a woman is a factor.) If he does not change prior to marriage, he is most unlikely to do so later. So that two can be joined together to work in harmony.Having decided we are going to spend Eternity with Jesus, we need to be VERY selective about with whom we choose to share our earthly life. In Genesis God Himself said: Your own wish list may include factors such as tall, good-looking, own home and car, secure job, similar cultural background, non-drinker/smoker/gambler, kind to animals, sense of humor etc. Because they were christened or confirmed at a certain age, or walked down the aisle and signed a decision card, that doesnt necessarily mean that they have understood their need to repent of their own sin and accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. So why does God feel so strongly about this matter? Many Christian women who think about getting married to someone who doesnt have a place for Jesus in their lives, cant see the harm, if the man they love is morally upright. But I ended up paying a heavy price in personal loneliness, marital discord, and, worst of all, disruption to my own fellowship with God. For nearly forty years I was married to a person who made no place for God in his life, yet was a good-living person, and an upright citizen. As they say, love is blind, but marriage is an eye-opener. Most likely he is also thinking he will change you or that your religious zeal will mellow after marriage. How many thousand marriages have ended disastrously because women expected they could change their men!There are a number of Bible examples that show us why one should not marry a non-Christian.There are two Old Testament examples of this biblical principle that are significant.
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband.".
May I suggest a couple of basic questions to consider? Someone like this would be a pretty good catch right? Our Heavenly Father feels very strongly about His children marrying anyone who doesnt belong to Him. And we were most certainly NOT in harmony with each other; nor were we often pulling together! But you see, He gave me free will the same as He has given you. Like the children of Israel of old, I ended up spending almost forty years in the wilderness. I now realize we actually discussed very little before we married.
There are many possible answers of course; being in love, wanting a home of your own, wanting a family of your own, your body clock is ticking, wanting to get away from abusive parents, loneliness. Thats why the Bible says in 2 Corinthians : Do you already have someone in mind and you have been feeling uneasy because you thought that there was a verse like this somewhere but you hadnt yet got around to looking it up? And, as a mother who has wept when her own children have experienced traumas in their own marriages, I am just beginning to understand how the heart of Father God must weep when His children make wrong choices. To stay single until I was sure what the Lord wanted me to do. One road is rough, corrugated, gravelly, uphill, windy The other road is tarred, straight, (at least as far as the eye can see), wide, smooth. We didnt have Him in our marriage; I didnt want Him in our marriage. Its just that my need to feel loved by someone I could see and touch was so desperate, that I didnt take seriously Christs words about being unequally yoked together. Now that Ive repented, and got this sorted out with God, I thought, surely things will improve? We were more interested in the physical side of things, although I made sure that we didnt go all the way.
Are you thinking about dating or marrying someone you are not sure belongs to the Lord Jesus? If, however, you are already married to someone who does not belong to the Jesus Christ, then Marriage in a Minor Key is the webpage for you. The most important decision is to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. And does he understand the full implications of having to share you with Christ? Moreover, prior to marriage a man is more motivated to please than he is ever likely to be after marriage.
What I am sharing with you is the fruit of my experiences, some of which has been very bitter. Tragically, countless thousands of good-living members of wonderful churches know all about Christian terminology and lifestyle and seem so indistinguishable from born again Christians that they have even convinced themselves, and yet the spiritual miracle of new birth has not yet happened in their own lives. So were the Pharisees those religious leaders of Christs day who kept the letter of the law, but it turned out they only knew how to show love their mistaken interpretation of the law. But were finding it hard to contain our sexual urges. (This carries great dangers because many men during this time fool their wives to be into thinking they are Christians.